If you tell me how you get your feeling of importance, I'll tell you what you are.

لعله يجدر بنا اثناء الحديث عن اشعار الآخرين بأهميتهم ان نتحدث عما يشعرك انتِ بالأهميه , مالذي يشعرك بالأهميه ؟ مالذي يلحظه الاخرون ويقدرونه فيك ؟ كلنا يبحث عن التقدير مقابل شيء ما .. سواء مقابل مظهرنا او ملابسنا او نتائجنا بالامتحان .

ان هذا الشعور قد يكون قويا و عاتيا اويؤدي الى الانخراط في بعض السلوكيات الخاطئه مثل الامتناع عن عن تناول الطعام سعيا وراء النحافه او تناول بعض المحرمات كالكحوليات والمخدرات لكسب قبول الاصدقاء .

ان مثل هذا السلوك المدمر قد يكون صيحه مدويه نابعه من الرغبه في كسب الاهتمام ” انا هنا , هل ترونني ؟

All of me, every aspect of my being, is important. I count for something. I matter. My feelings can be trusted. My thinking is appropriate. I value my wants and needs. I do not deserve and will not tolerate abuse or constant mistreatment. I have rights, and it is my responsibility to assert these rights. The decisions I make and the way I conduct myself will reflect my high self-esteem.

Kiss me, and you will see how important I am.

Tell me who admires and loves you, and I will tell you who you are.

هناك طريقه واحدة فقط يمكنك ان تنأى بها من السقوط في هذة الهـوة, وهي ادراك معتقداتك الراسخه وقيمك العميقه والالتزام بها التزاما كليا .ان لم يسبق لك التروي ومساءلة نفسك عن منبع شعورك بالأهميه ( اي الاعتزاز بالنفس والقيمه الذاتيه ) عليك بالتمهل الآن لبضع دقائق للإجابه على هذا السؤال .. دوني الأشياء التي تجعلك انتِ .. أنتِ . ما سماتك الخاصه ؟ ماهي معتقداتك الراسخه ؟ ما قيمك الاصليه ؟

What matters to you defines your mattering.

Formerly, when I would feel a desire to understand someone, or myself, I would take into consideration not actions, in which everything is relative, but wishes. Tell me what you want and I'll tell you who you are.

If you could only sense how important you are to the lives of those you meet; how important you can be to the people you may never even dream of. There is something of yourself that you leave at every meeting with another person.

You may never have proof of your importance but you are more important than you think. There are always those who couldn’t do without you. The rub is that you don’t always know who.

Tell me with whom you consort and I will tell you who you are; if I know how you spend your time, then I know what might become of you.

Who is it that can tell me who I am?

I’ll aways be wondering how you are, what you’re doing, if you’re all right, if there’s anything I could do to help you. I’ll even have to wonder if you’re still alive, won’t I?

Who am I then? Tell me that first, and then, if I like being that person, I'll come up; if not, I'll stay down here till I'm someone else.