In every good marriage, it helps sometimes to be a little deaf.

A good marriage is one which allows for change and growth in the individuals and in the way they express their love.

A good marriage is where both people feel like they're getting the better end of the deal.

Love is blind, but marriage restores its sight.

Call it a good marriage -
For no one ever questioned
Her warmth, his masculinity,
Their interlocking views;
Except one stray graphologist
Who frowned in speculation
At her h's and her s's,
His p's and w's.

Though few would still subscribe
To the monogamic axiom
That strife below the hip-bones
Need not estrange the heart,
Call it a good marriage:
More drew those two together,
Despite a lack of children,
Than pulled them apart.

Call it a good marriage:
They never fought in public,
They acted circumspectly
And faced the world with pride;
Thus the hazards of their love-bed
Were none of our damned business -
Till as jurymen we sat on
Two deaths by suicide.

A good marriage is supposed to be one where each spouse secretly thinks he or she got the better deal.

Another often-asked question when I speak in public: “Do you have some good advice you might share with us?” Yes, I do. It comes from my savvy mother-in-law, advice she gave me on my wedding day. “In every good marriage,” she counseled, “it helps sometimes to be a little deaf.” I have followed that advice assiduously, and not only at home through fifty-six years of a marital partnership nonpareil. I have employed it as well in every workplace, including the Supreme Court of the United States. When a thoughtless or unkind word is spoken, best tune out. Reacting in anger or annoyance will not advance one’s ability to persuade.

If there is such a thing as a good marriage, it is because it resembles friendship rather than love.

The point of marriage is not to create a quick commonality by tearing down all boundaries; on the contrary, a good marriage is one in which each partner appoints the other to be the guardian of his solitude, and thus they show each other the greatest possible trust. A merging of two people is an impossibility, and where it seems to exist, it is a hemming-in, a mutual consent that robs one party or both parties of their fullest freedom and development. But once the realization is accepted that even between the closest people infinite distances exist, a marvelous living side-by-side can grow up for them, if they succeed in loving the expanse between them, which gives them the possibility of always seeing each other as a whole and before an immense sky.

The best friend will probably acquire the best wife, because a good marriage is founded on the talent for friendship.

This is how the girl who couldn't speak and the man who couldn't see fell in love.

Choose a wife rather by your ear than your eye.

Being happily and successfully married is generally not so much a matter of marrying the right person as it is being the right person.

A marriage is always made up of two people who are prepared to swear that only the other one snores.