Nobody is thinking about you the way you are thinking about you. They’re all thinking about themselves.

If we think only of ourselves, forget about other people, then our minds occupy very small area. Inside that small area, even tiny problem appears very big. But the moment you develop a sense of concern for others, you realize that, just like ourselves, they also want happiness; they also want satisfaction. When you have this sense of concern, your mind automatically widens. At this point, your own problems, even big problems, will not be so significant. The result? Big increase in peace of mind. So, if you think only of yourself, only your own happiness, the result is actually less happiness. You get more anxiety, more fear.

I've found that a substantial fraction of many people’s days is spent
worrying about what others think of them. If nobody ever worried
about what was in other people’s heads, we’d all be 33 percent more
effective in our lives and on our jobs.

If we worry too much about ourselves, we won't have time for others

there are people in the world who think only about themselves. They don’t care what happens to other people so long as they get what they want. They put other people down to make themselves feel important. “Then there are people who do the opposite, who are able to imagine how others must feel, and make sure that they don’t do things that hurt people. “So,” she said, looking me squarely in the eye. “Which kind of person do you want to be?

And, of course, people are interested only in themselves. If a story is not about the hearer he will not listen.

« The more thought you give to what people think of you, the less attention you give to what you want, what you like, what you think, how you would like to enjoy life, and more importantly what makes you, YOU. »

Do not become too concerned about what others may think of you. Be very concerned about what you think of yourself.

Remember that the people you are talking to are a hundred times more interested in themselves and their wants and problems than they are in you and your problems.

When we are not engaged in thinking about some definite problem, we usually spend about 95 percent of our time thinking about ourselves.

We stop worrying about them, and they pick up the slack and finally start worrying about themselves. What a grand plan! We each mind our own business. Earlier, I described a person caught in

Be more concerned about making others feel good about themselves than you are in making them feel good about you.

As you care less about what people think of you, you will care more about what others think of themselves.

Nothing in life is as important as you think it is while you are thinking about it.”2