They fear love because it creates a world they can't control.

You're afraid of the pain, you're afraid of the grief. You're afraid of the vulnerability that loving entails.

To fear love is to fear life, and those who fear life are already 3-parts dead.

Maybe you’re desperate for love. Always have been in your life. But you’ve been distrustful of people. Is there anything about them that scares us, that’s dangerous, that’s going to hurt us? Because a lot of people are frightened to death of love.

We search for love outside ourselves when love is all around us. Love is everywhere, but we don’t have the eyes to see. Our emotional body is no longer tuned to love. We are so afraid to love because it isn’t safe to love. The fear of rejection frightens us. We have to pretend to be what we are not; we try to be accepted by our partner when we don’t accept ourselves. But the problem is not that our partner rejects us. The problem is that we reject ourselves, because we are not good enough, because that is what we believe.

I am, to be sure, afraid that if you knew me that you wouldn’t love me. But this must be faced…I fear it in any relationship. Thus I am perhaps afraid to reveal facts about things…or to say too much for fear if I make too much noise you’ll drift away, pull down the shade of your ivory tower…and after that. Afraid, I guess, that I’ll loose you…I keep losing people.

Love can be a very frightening thing.”
“That is why most great love stories are tragedies.

To fear love is to fear life, and those whose fear life are already three parts dead...

Everything we do in life is based on fear, especially love.

Although Love is always what we want, we are often afraid of Love without consciously knowing it, and so we may act both blind and deaf to Love’s presence.

And besides, we lovers fear everything

They were afraid of your authentic love, because authentic love is beyond their control.You are possessed by it. You are not the possessor, you are the possessed. And every society wants you to be in control. The society is afraid of your wild nature, it is afraid of your naturalness, so from the very beginning it starts cutting your wings. And the most basic thing which is dangerous in you is the possibility of love, because if you are possessed by love you can go even against the whole world.

I'm so afraid of losing something I love that I refuse to love anything

Indeed, men who feel, who love, often hide their emotional awareness from other men for fear of being attacked and shamed. This is the big secret we all keep together — the fear of patriarchal maleness that binds everyone in our culture. We cannot love what we fear. That is why so many religious traditions teach us that there is no fear in love.