Go back and take care of yourself. Your body needs you, your perceptions need you, your feeling needs you. The wounded child in you needs you. Your suffering needs you to acknowledge it.

Not only can we lovingly detach from other people and take care of ourselves, it is our primary responsibility in life to do that.

"Self care isn't just treating yourself from time to time. It’s choosing peace during an argument. It’s not feeling guilty for saying "no". It’s spending less time with negative people. It’s prioritizing mental health. It’s praying. It's choosing not to take things personally."

You won’t be important to other people all the time, and that’s why you have to be important to yourself.
Learn to enjoy your own company. Take care of yourself. Encourage positive self-talk – and become your own support system.
Your needs matter, so start meeting them yourself. Don’t rely on others.

If we do not know how to take care of ourselves and to love ourselves, we cannot take care of the people we love. Loving oneself is the foundation for loving another person.

"There are moments in our lives - eras in our lives - when self-care demands more. When you're actually suffering an enormous loss or reeling, the best thing you can do is step outside of the pressure cookers of your life. One of the things I did in my own life when I found myself at that kind of bottom moment is I said, "I have got to do something that's going to remind me of my strength. I've got to do something that's going to bring me back to clarity, simplicity, humility, and strength." And so I went and hiked the Pacific Crest Trail. Remember that the only thing that's important is your well-being, your sense of "okay-ness" in the world. So go and get that."

The message carried by all the pioneers of codependency recovery was the same: Not only can we lovingly detach from other people and take care of ourselves, it is our primary responsibility in life to do that.

We don’t learn about taking care of ourselves the way we learn math. Although information is useful and sometimes critical, self-care isn’t only an intellectual process. It’s our experiences that change us.

We don’t have to be controlled by what other people say; we don’t have to try to control them with our words and special effects. We don’t have to be manipulated, guilted, coerced, or forced into anything. We can open our mouths and take care of ourselves! Learn to say: “I love you, but I love me, too. This is what I need to do to take care of me.” We

You owe it to you to put yourself first. When you take care of yourself, take the time to see yourself, and get comfortable with being you, only then can you start to take care of other people, see other people, and be comfortable with other people.

✺THREE REMINDERS FOR WHEN YOU ARE STARTING A NEW SELF-CARE PRACTICE 1. The way to close the gap between the life you have now and the life you crave for yourself is through consistent action. 2. The work you put in today will be enjoyed by your future self. 3. Every little bit of effort accumulates.

we must all care for one another — this is our task in life. But also we must care for ourselves, which means we must be careful in our decisions, careful in our relationships, careful in our statements. We must manage our lives carefully, in order to avoid becoming victims.

To deal with things knowledge of things is needed. To deal with
people, you need insight, sympathy. To deal with yourself, you need
nothing. Be what you are — conscious being — and don't stray away from
yourself.

You will learn to recognize when detachment is advisable. A good rule of thumb is: You need to detach most when it seems the least likely or possible thing to do.