No one should ever be forced upon those in grief, and all over-emotional people, no matter how near or dear, should be barred absolutely.

I find many mass cards from the funerals of people whose faces I no longer remember. In theory these mementos serve to bring back the moment. In fact they serve only to make clear how inadequately I appreciated the moment when it was here. How inadequately I appreciated the moment when it was here is something else I could never afford to see.

There is no real way to deal with everything we lose.