Rescuing and caretaking mean almost what they sound like. We rescue people from their responsibilities. We take care of people’s responsibilities for them. Later we get mad at them for what we’ve done. Then we feel used and sorry for ourselves. That is the pattern, the triangle.

As I’ve said before, no wonder we think God has abandoned us; we’ve abandoned ourselves.

We can confuse love with dependency, manipulation, and neediness. None of those are love. Love is when we want other people to be who they are.