The less you talk about your shame, the more of it you have.

As Freud once said, “One day, in retrospect, the years of struggle will strike you as the most beautiful.

Because construing everything in life so as to make yourself out to be constantly victimized requires just as much selfishness as the opposite. It takes just as much energy and delusional self-aggrandizing to maintain the belief that one has insurmountable problems as that one has no problems at all.