Never ask people. Not about your work. Don't you know what you want? How can you stand it, not to know?

Don’t tell people how to do things, tell them what to do and let them surprise you with their results.

Never tell people how to do things. Tell them what to do and they will surprise you with their ingenuity.

Do not tell others how to act unless you can set a good example.

Don't follow leaders.

When leading up the chain of command, use caution and respect. But remember, if your leader is not giving the support you need, don’t blame him or her. Instead, reexamine what you can do to better clarify, educate, influence, or convince that person to give you what you need in order to win.

Resist telling people how something should be done. Instead, tell them what needs to be done. They will often surprise you with creative solutions.

Your choices are to lead, follow, or get out of the way. You must decide. And remember, choosing not to be a great boss is okay. Just get out of the way and be willing to follow.

You never have to ask anyone permission to lead. When you want to lead, you lead.

When I say you don’t have to explain what you’re going to do with your life, I’m not suggesting you lounge around whining about how difficult it is. I’m suggesting you apply yourself in directions for which we have no accurate measurement. I’m talking about work. And love.

Do not tell people how to live their lives. Just tell them stories and they will figure out how those stories apply to them.

One thing that leaders should not do, in my opinion, is be manipulative.

The effective leader should keep the following guidelines in mind when it is necessary to change attitudes or behavior: 1 Be sincere. Do not promise anything that you cannot deliver. Forget about the benefits to yourself and concentrate on the benefits to the other person. 2 Know exactly what it is you want the other person to do. 3 Be empathetic. Ask yourself what is it the other person really wants. 4 Consider the benefits that person will receive from doing what you suggest. 5 Match those benefits to the other person’s wants. 6 When you make your request, put it in a form that will convey to the other person the idea that he personally will benefit.

I have learned, as a rule of thumb, never to ask whether you can do something. Say, instead, that you are doing it. Then fasten your seat belt. The most remarkable things follow.