It is true that when we harm others, we harm ourselves; but it is just as true that when we help others, we also help ourselves.

It's pain that changes our lives.

Wounding and healing are not opposites. They're part of the same thing. It is our wounds that enable us to be compassionate with the wounds of others. It is our limitations that make us kind to the limitations of other people. It is our loneliness that helps us to to find other people or to even know they're alone with an illness. I think I have served people perfectly with parts of myself I used to be ashamed of.

Healing is a different type of pain. It’s the pain of becoming aware of the power of one’s strength and weakness, of one’s capacity to love or do damage to oneself and to others, and of how the most challenging person to control in life is ultimately yourself.

The pain we inflict upon ourselves hurt most of all.

It’s not what we don’t know that hurts us,” people say. “It’s what we believe is true that isn’t that does the damage.” There

...just remember, darling, it is pain that changes our lives.

What hurts you, blesses you. Darkness is your candle.

We do not need to succumb to the temptation to meet such a violation with retaliation. The only way to heal this hurt is to give voice to what ails us. It is only in this way that we can keep our pain and loss from taking root inside us. It is only in this way that we have a chance for freedom.

That which hurts, also instructs.

to harm another is to harm oneself

We all hurt other people, especially those we love...civilized people were the ones who had learned to hurt according to rules.

To hurt is as human as to breathe.

Healing is forgiving the pain of your past, knowing it has shaped you into who you are today.