One reason many people struggle is that they feel their identity is tied to the results they achieve.

The research shows that the embrace of traditional masculinity increases the possibility of domestic violence and abuse committed by a man. If you’re told all your life to “man up,” and you’re not taught any of the other things a man ought to do, then is it any wonder that you’d grow up thinking that a fist is the solution to everything? If you’re told that your physical dominance over a woman is what makes you a man, how else would you act?

There is a reward for good habits (growth), and there is a reward for bad ones (instant gratification).